Did you think going into your Marriage/Relationship that it was going to be a cake walk? Surly you didn’t but in case you really did, “ALL Marriages/Relationships or WORK and REQUIRE self-growth!” So if you thought something was wrong or funny about the people you see reading self-help books, the joke is on you! It’s okay, we all gotta start somewhere.
It’s just too bad that Marriage is often the source that forces us to really began the exploration of self –help (GROWTH). Marriages/Relationships help us realize that we have ISSUES. Yes, that’s right YOU have issues! Not your spouse’s issues, issues that are yours and yours alone. These are things that you are going to have to work out for yourself now or later. So if you are thinking about leaving the Marriage/Relationship thinking that things will be better with someone else or by yourself, make sure you have taken the time to CHECK YOURSELF. Ask yourself if you truly want this Marriage/Relationship. If you do want it, stop focusing on things that you can’t change about your spouse. Instead, take inventory on things that you need to be working on to become a better person and spouse.
If you are just going through the motions in your Marriage/Relationship – it’s up to you to actively seek out support and resources that will help you regain your motivation and interest for the relationship. If some of those resources don’t work out for you, try what’s next on the list. Decide if you are going to let your Marriage/Relationship die defeated by your feelings of hopelessness or SURVIVE trying to create a new truth for it. Don’t give up on your Marriage/Relationship to soon or live just going through the motions because you are too cowardly to WORK at and GROW from it. Be COURAGEOUS.
Love is no assignment for cowards. ~ Ovid (Marriage is no assignment for cowards. ~ Sherry)